Text Songs of Solomon 2:15
Catch the the foxes for us, the little ones that are running the vineyards, while our vineyards are in blossom.
SongofSolomon 215(NASB)
Compatibility is a natural meeting point of lifestyle choices and values of two individuals. It can also come from opposite traits as well. A girl who is quick to anger may find herself having fewer or more calm arguments with a calm man, rather than with someone like herself. Compatibility is not about similarity. But the similarities tend to create compatibility in certain areas and there are certain periods when the opposites are more helpful.
For example, when one person is quick to anger and their partner is not, they may find themselves having fewer arguments than they would with another reactive person. Many people ask about the root of the divorce and divorce may occur through several kinds of different reasons. More often than not, the little things add up and lead to the decline of the relationship. According to experts, most couples are forced to have a few silent relationships in common

1. Selfishness

Two kinds of people in the world are the givers and the takers. A marriage between two givers can be a beautiful thing Friction is Inevitable for a giver and a taker But two takers can claw each each other to pieces within weeks. selfishness will destroy and affect marital partners shortly.
  • Mention three signs of a selfish husband
  • What causes a husband to become selfish?
Have the overcome if-Be kind to your spouse and be a giver

2. Suffocation

My concern is for those who violate the”breathing room” needed by their partners, quickly suffocating them and destroying the attraction between them. Love must be free, and it must be confident
  • Mention three signs of a man who is feeling suffocated
  • What causes suffocation?
How to overcome it-give your spouse breathing space, trust them, and stop being overprotective or monitoring a spirit.

3. Stonewalling

When one withdraws or stays back during a conversation or argument. They will just close themselves off from the partner of their emotional and physiological flooded or agitated to the point where they can’t discuss an issue respectfully. You can’t solve problems if one person isn’t trying to do so. 
  • Mention three signs of stonewalling.
  • What causes stonewalling?
How to overcome it-be ready to be emotionally vulnerable. Learn how to communicate and label what you feel. Talk out and stop storing things in your heart. You are not a septic tank.

4. Secrecy

You were keeping secrets. You and your partner spent endless hours talking to each other and getting to know each other.
And then, one day, you forget to tell your partner something. Nothing big, nothing special, just some little experience you had slipped your mind. The next day you deliberately withhold a belief, a reference, a wish, or a desire.
  • Mention three signs of a secretive man.
  • What causes secrecy in a marriage?
How to overcome it- Talk and tell your spouse things that are informational and healthy for your welfare and well-being. Be transparent, open, and honest.

5. Squabbles

We are fighting and getting defensive. attacking pouting raging, stonewalling, and guilt-tripping.
  • Mention three signs of a quarrelsome man
  • What causes squabbles?
How to overcome it-be loving and sweet with your words. Think about your words before you say them.

6. Selflessness

Sex is one of the primary reasons men gladly get into a committed relationship. They think it will be on-demand and wild. Often it is for the first few months, and then things change. The relationship may not fall apart immediately, but over time, the foundation will erode as the connecting power of sex slips away into the night You may stay for the kids, or because you think you can deal with the lack of sex, and if not, you will justify having an affair or taking on a mistress.
  • Mention three signs of a sexless marriage
  • What causes sexlessness?
How to overcome it –  understand that sex is an emotional banding mechanism though it’s not all there is to marriage it is a seasonal gift. A day and time will come when because of nature, you can’t.

7. Struggle

Money Money is a massive problem for many couples. It becomes the focal point of the hidden stresses in the relationship. Any other little imitations and pet peeves flow nicely into money conflict. Money gives you something tangible to latch, and points blame at the other person.
  • Mention three signs of a struggling man.
  • What causes financial struggles?
How to overcome it- take care of yourself by not taking too much on yourself. Learn how to manage your body and mind by taking it one day at a time.

8. Silence

Boredom-It is easy to fall into the boredom trap. It is an insidious pitfall that silently creeps up on you and strikes swiftly in the night. Unless you two have been conscious and actively engaged in keeping your relationship alive, you will get bored with them at some point. It’s natural, so don’t fight it.
Taking each other for granted is easy to do, especially in a good relationship. Things are going well, and you think it is the natural order. It isn’t.
Lack of Communication-The average couple invests in quality conversation only a few minutes daily. It’s easy to let life get busy and stop connecting with the one you love. But there’s no such thing as living in neutral because drifting happens when we stop moving forward. Take the time to connect and communicate with your spouse often.
  • Mention three signs of silence.
  • What causes silence?
How to overcome it – Be chatty, talk, play. dance and make your home lively with pest the vibes.

9. Success

It is almost as risky to succeed wildly as it is to fail miserably in business.KingSoloncm wrote Give me neither poverty nor riches but give me only my daily bread”(Proverbs 30:8).EdwardPiogerald said it another way: “One of the saddest papes kept by the recording angels the record of souls that have been danced by success “It is true.
  • Mention three signs of a man whose success is becoming a problem
  • What causes success to kill marriage?
How to overcome it: Make each other your primary target, In your chase for success, others along

10. Stress

It’s so easy to take our stress out on our spouse. We can get into the habit of holding things in until we’re in the safety and comfort of our marriage- and then we explode.From financial problems to illness, job loss, and grief, healthy couples allow their stress to pull them together by relying on each other, sharing it, and carrying the load together.
  • Mention three signs of a man who is under stress.
  • What causes stress?
How to overcome it-plan times of rest, recreation, and vacation together. Have periods when you shut down and just play.

Conclusion

Which of these 10 is silently killing your marriage? Think and work on them.

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