Fathers are the High Priest of the family and its overall welfare is on his shoulders. However, the One who called him into marriage has made every provision for him to succeed. Every marriage should have a destiny and a plan, or even better, a vision from God.
They should discuss extensively how they want their new life to function. What is God’s purpose in bringing them together? Where will they live? How many children would they like?
Do they carry on studying? Will the wife work? All these questions and many more will need to be worked out between them. It is the responsibility of a father to plan for all these and take notice of them.
1. Protect your family
Every marriage should have a destiny and a plan, or even better, a vision from God. A good father will protect his wife and children physically, emotionally, and spiritually. He will watch for her, as she will for him.
He will protect her from his own family and sometimes from their children. You are not expected to speak to your mother like that! A good father should control any dirty language. He will watch over the family in prayer. He will understand her menstrual cycle and support her in times of trial.
2. Provide for your family
Part of the favor of God is the power to get wealth. The responsibility and onus for providing money lie firmly with the man of the house. Your wife may work; she may even earn more than you are but you as a father are a provider and you should seek to structure the family finances.
Some men make this statement, “My wife will never work.” It is part of manliness to provide and take financial responsibility.
3. Respect your children’s mother
A responsible father should respect their children’s mother. Your marriage has to be kept strong and vital if you are married Make sure you respect and support the mother of your children. Make her happy all the time by helping her with any domestic chores.
The couple should respect each other and let your children know it; make sure you provide a secure environment for them. When children see the husband respects his wife and the wife respects her husband, they will be more likely to feel that they are also accepted and respected.
4. Spend time with your children
Fathers spending time telling their children what’s important to them will make the children adequate, comfortable, and happy. Treasuring children often means sacrificing other things, but it is essential to spend time with your children and don’t forget that kids are growing up.
5. Discipline and correct in love
Every child needs guidance and discipline. Punishment is not always good but just set reasonable limits. Create time to remind your children of the consequences of their actions. Then, provide and show meaningful rewards for desirable behavior. Father, who discipline calmly and fairly, shows love for their children.
There is a case to learn from. “Shortly after we married my husband said to me, “I don’t want you to speak negatively or critically in this house.” I was shocked. All my life I had spoken negatively and critically; it was a habit but it was a habit I was rapidly going to lose!
He explained to me the power of the tongue and since that time it has become one of the house rules; “speak only that which is positive and uplifting.” Husbands and wives can set their disciplines and rules.
The best role models are fathers. They must be so to their kids. Fathers can teach sons honesty, humility, and responsibility. and how to demonstrate them in society .“ There is an adage that says, “The entire world is a stage”. That is, a father plays one of the most vital roles. A good leader can boldly say, “ I want to you to be like me.” A good father will take himself seriously.
Someone has said of fathers: “All your young child knows about God is what he sees in you. Whatever you do your children will copy you.
8. Be a teacher
Every father must have a teacher who will impart morals to their child. Many fathers take teaching as frivolous. It is very important to teach. A father who teaches his children what is right and wrong, and also encourages them to do their best, will help his children make out good choices. The fathers who will be responsible will use everyday examples to assist their children in the basic lessons of life.
9. Eat together as a family
Sharing a meal (breakfast, lunch, or dinner) can be an important part of healthy family life. In addition to providing some structure in a busy day, it gives kids the chance to talk about what they are doing and what to do. Sharing a good time eating together will allow pleasant discussion in most cases. Fathers and mothers will listen to and give each other advice better.
10. Read to your children
We are now in a world technology such as videos and television often dominate the lives of children, Fathers must make every effort to read to their children. Children learn best when playing and reading. What they see and hear retains their memories better. You can read to your children when they are very young. You can still encourage them on reading culture on their own when they are old. Make sure you instill in your children a love for reading. Reading and reading culture are the best ways to ensure they will have personal development and career growth.
11. Show affection
Children need the security that comes with knowing they are wanted, accepted, and loved by their families. Fathers, need to make their children feel both comfortable and happy. When you show affection every day, you make your family adequate, comfortable and loved. A husband or father is commanded to love him and to live with her with understanding. She may be weaker emotionally, but she is equal with him before God.
12. Realize that a father’s job is never done.
All fathers should know that your responsibilities are many on your wife and children. fathers’ responsibilities will not stop when the children are old. Fathers should know that the growth and development of children are stages. Fathers are expected to find a way to stay with these children occasionally at home. At these, stages, they will still look to their fathers’ advice. Fathers should be ready to discharge their responsibilities because the house is like a company held by the Managing Director. Fathers are like the Managing Directors of the house. Manage your house wisely and with the help of God.